Friday, April 30, 2010

Dancing in the Rain

"Life isn't about waiting for the storms to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain"

Have you ever had one of "those" weeks?? Of course you have...what a silly question! Well, my week this week was one of "those". It was so much one of "those" that I am ashamed to say that I really couldn't bring myself to do a "Thankful Thursday" post yesterday as I normally do. Wednesday and Thursday were so negative and full of ugliness that I was grasping for anything positive just to help me endure the day!

The week really started out OK, but there was certainly a series of unfortunate (maybe fortunate in the long run) events. I say that because now that it is Friday, I can look back and see that many lessons were learned and as painful as they were, it was necessary for me to learn them...all of them...AGAIN!

I learned that there are people in this world who can't help but lie! Yes, they have a choice, but they choose to lie and for some reason can't, or won't, help themselves by telling the truth and more importantly, they don't live in truth! Maybe they just don't know how to do that so my judgments of them are futile and wrong.

I learned that I am WAY too naive about trusting certain relationships. I have found out that talk is sometimes the cheapest thing around! It means absolutely nothing if it is not backed up by action! I learned that there are people who are so selfish that they actually exploit relationships to only benefit themselves. So sad, but so true. Betrayal is painful and sometimes irreparable. Forgiveness is ALWAYS necessary, but that same forgiveness doesn't always require the continuation of those very relationships...sometimes cutting ties is the ONLY way to heal...

I learned that when one door closes (even by choice) that God always leads you to another door which can be opened if we trust in Him with all of our heart. I also learned that "exercising" faith is called exercise for a reason!

I learned that time is sometimes the greatest blessing...and that making big decisions during the heat of high emotions is the worst decision you can possibly make. For me this is sometimes difficult because I like to resolve things MY time...I often ignore GOD'S time...BIG mistake! Being still and patient is not my strong suit but I'm working on it and remembering to give myself a break...I'm a work in progress.

And finally, I learned that life is beyond PRECIOUS and can be cut short in an instant! One of our "Beatles" friends was taken from us very unexpectedly early yesterday morning and left behind a devastated, but strong wife. He touched the hearts of so many of us through his gift of music...even those who didn't know him personally. His passing has reminded me to live each moment as if it's my last and look forward to future moments as if they are the first and to never leave things undone. Express love and kindness often and liberally...remember to compliment, hug, smile and say "I love you often...

I have seen a lot of ugliness this week from so many people...From total strangers to people who are supposed to love us. I have shed many tears and ached as I have realized that we live in a world where we have become a selfish society and don't care if we hurt each other. Good old fashioned manners have become obsolete...they have breaks my heart!

Today, on this Friday, I am thankful for LIFE LESSONS...They are painful to learn. They usually beat us up. Sometimes they bring out ugliness is us. But when the storm passes and the winds calm, we become stronger, more vibrant, we heal and ultimately become happier. I am so thankful for the people in my life who really do love me and who aren't selfish in showing it...I'm thankful for a husband who loves me and allows me to have one of "those" weeks without judgment and instead, encourages, uplifts and supports me no matter what!

So, Thank you, Lord, for loving me enough to give me one of "those" weeks...I survived and I promise to remember to Dance in the Rain!


I am Harriet said...

Hi there.
Stopping by from Friday Follow to say hello.
I'm enjoying your site.
Have a great Friday!

addicted2shius said...

I found your name on Friday Follow. I like to browse on there to see which blogs interest me & something drew me to your blog. Perhaps your name cuz I love that song! Normally I just browse through the blogs at first to get a sense but yours truly spoke to my heart. I too have had one of those weeks and honestly have learned those EXACT same lessons (feel free to visit my blog to see my own personal revelations). Anyways I've learned that I have had a hand in my bad week & that though there are people in this world who lie & let you down, I am just as capable of destroying relationships by my reaction to them. Needless to say I've had a bad week but cheers to the weekend! I sure hope yours gets better than your week went. I look forward to reading more blogs :)


Barbie said...

Hello! I am stopping over from the Friday Follow. I have to say I love your blog. The photo and post about dancing in the rain really spoke to me. I am now following you. I hope you will visit me if you get a chance!

Blessings! said...

Beautiful blog! So happy to have found you. We are your newest followers from FF! Would love to have you over our way:

Here's to a great weekend!!

Lynn said...

Hugs Mary. I hope you don't mind but I am going to link your blog in one of my posts coming up. I have REALLY needed this this week......I too have met up with some real ugliness and it's been a hard week.

Thanks for sharing! You always seem to know what to say and just at the right moment.

Connie said...

Loved your post today. You really know how to 'say it' and make others search a little deeper int heir own life - I did. Thanks!!

So sorry to hear about your friend's passing...
Keep smiling . . . and come visit me when you are down this way! I see your mom at the store every once in a while!
love you!
Connie J

Ron Cooper said...


I’m your latest Friday Follower! I would appreciate a follow-back on Google Friends Connect and/or Networked Blogs.

Tales From My Empty Nest said...

So sorry that you lost a dear friend this week and that the week itself has also been hard. Remember, God promised us that our life would not be easy, but that He would ALWAYS be there for us! What a comfort when times are tough. Hang in there. I hope this week proves to be much better. Love & blessings from NC!